trans, gay||a millimetre away from death 24/7
side blog, so canβt follow you or comment. likely will just stalk your account or rb with replies n stuff.
My university celebrating LGBT history month with… every flag except the gay pride and lesbian flag.
…. mogai hell seeping into real life I’m going to Die.
why do we allow these people in our community???
“you fucks”
I’m speechless tbh.
They lit have the intersex flag…intersex isnt even lgbt
anyways this is homophobia
Hi, there is this post attempting to discredit another tumblr post going around. What Nicolas Steenhout is saying is merely his opinion rather than the law and in some instances he is outright lying. This misinformation spreading about service dogs has the potential to harm many service dog teams who may be accused of being fakes. Just to note this is about service dogs in the USA only.
@mariagvogel. This isn’t to single you out, just that you’re the person who cross posted this from twitter and that you mentioned not having enough knowledge on service dogs to form a proper opinion.
I’d first like to address the lies of Steenhout’s posts. @lumpatronics is a grown woman, not a teenager, and is working with a professional dog trainer. When the incident took place lumpatronics was in a grocery store when she tripped and dropped Raider’s (her service dog) leash. Raider was found an aisle over, not 2 blocks away, and was not pawing the woman. Raider is still working as a service dog and was never deemed inappropriate as a service dog (doh!).
With that out of the way I’d like to further explain what a service dog is. This is taken directly from ada.gov: Under the ADA, a service animal is defined as a dog that has been individually trained to do work or perform tasks for an individual with a disability. The task(s) performed by the dog must be directly related to the person’s disability. There is no list of official tasks or how the dog must perform them. As long as it’s a trained behaviour that mitigates the handler’s disability, it counts. To give you an idea of some tasks a dog might perform here is a list of 143 of them thought the dog only needs to know one task and it’s not limited to that list. You’ll see ‘alert for help’ is on that list.
Each service dog is uniquely tailored to their handler’s needs. What might work with one service dog team won’t necessarily work for another. Steenhout’s example of the dog staying with their handler and barking to alert others would not work for lumpatronics because she has sensory issues and would be sent into sensory overload from the barking while recovering from her seizure. A dog being trained to find help is a perfectly valid and legal task that isn’t unheard of in seizure response dogs.
Service dogs are required to be leashed unless the leash interferes with one’s disability or performing a task. From ada.gov: Under the ADA, service animals must be harnessed, leashed, or tethered, unless these devices interfere with the service animal’s work or the individual’s disability prevents using these devices. In that case, the individual must maintain control of the animal through voice, signal, or other effective controls. Since Raider was tasking he was considered under other effective control.
While service dogs are not legally required to wear a vest that does not mean vests are a scam. Some service dog handlers choose to utilize a vest some don’t. Registries are a scam but just somebody registered their dog with one doesn’t necessarily mean the dog is a fake service dog. The handler may have simply not have known better. As far as I’m aware Raider is not registered as a service dog so I’m not sure why it was brought up.
Other things to note is that while Labradors, Golden Retreivers, Poodles, and mixes of the 3 are the most commonly seen as service dogs, there is no restriction on what breeds are allowed to be service dogs (Q22). It is also not legally required for the dog to be professionally trained and handlers with owner trained dogs have just as many rights as handlers with organization trained dogs (Q5). There is no restrictions on where the dog comes from or what age it is either. Breeder, rescue, or the family dog are all valid choices if the dog has the right temperament for service dog work.
The best thing to do if you see a service dog team is to ignore the dog. I hear a lot of people say that while they don’t pat service dogs they always make sure to tell the dog’s handler how the dog is doing a good job. While it’s coming from a good place I know a lot of handlers would prefer you didn’t. They are just trying to go through their day like anybody else but usually get stopped because of their dogs. Service dogs are medical equipment. You wouldn’t stop somebody to tell them their cane, wheelchair, oxygen tank, etc, is doing a good job, would you?
This is longer than I intended and their was more things I wanted to add but I’m having a hard time remembering them and I’m running out of energy for this. I hope what I’ve said makes sense and that I’ve educated a few people about service dogs. Here are some links to service dog handlers correcting this post. @pavusiing has a good response to this post here, @ofspaceandboys here, and @coconutsake here. I’m sure there are others but these are the only ones that have come across my dash. While not made as a response to Steenhout’s post @astraltailwags has a very good post about fake service dogs here.
Here are some links to help people to educate themselves on service animals in the USA
ADA on Service Animals
ADA’s Official FAQ
ADA National Network
Service Dog Society
I haven’t posted anything on this I don’t believe, but yes I was disappointed to see that Twitter thread. Thanks for including my post, I’m very happy it’s still getting attention because the SD community can be a brutal place
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THIS IS SO IMPORTANT
i feel like adding in the “was or could be perceived as [insert terrible thing here] is really important when discussing trauma. someone could be diagnosed with a disease that’s mostly benign, but if they percieved it as something that would take their life, it could still be traumatic.
THIS
this is so important.
my therapist spends so much time reminding me of this
staying in the hospital, as an infant, can be traumatic
moving houses, as a toddler, can be traumatic.
isolation, as a child, can be traumatic.
don’t look at your history through your grown and “knowing better” eyes. you have to look at it through the eyes of the little person you once were, where everything was new, and new can be scary if you’re not properly comforted and prepared.
It’s about time people realize that Trump is dehumanizing immigrants and turning them into a nonexistent enemy.
💄 - do you wear makeup?
💋 - when was/have you had your first kiss?
👠 - do you enjoy shopping?
🧣 - do you consider yourself fashionable?
⛑ - has someone ever saved your life?
🎒 - what’s your favorite school subject?
🐞 - are you a superstitious person?
🐙 - what’s your favorite animal?
🍄 - what’s your favorite vegetable?
🌹 - are you a romantic?
🍎 - what’s your favorite fruit?
🍉 - what’s your favorite season?
🍓 - what’s a memory that reminds you of your childhood?
🍒 - what’s your favorite flower?
🍅 - do you consider tomatoes fruits or vegetables?
🌶 - can you handle spicy foods?
🥩 - do you eat meat?
🥫 - tomato soups with grilled cheese or by itself?
🍫 - dark or milk chocolate?
🥤 - what’s your favorite drink?
🍷 - are you old enough to drink?
🏓 - what’s your favorite sport?
🥊 - do you think fighting solves problems sometimes?
🥁 - do you play an instrument?
🎸 - what kinds of music do you like?
🚗 - can you drive yet?/do you want to?
🚨 - have you ever gotten a ticket/pulled over?
☎️ - who was the last person you called?
⏰ - are you an early bird or a night owl?
💉 - are you afraid of needles?
🎈 - what was the wildest party you’ve ever thrown?
📮 - do you enjoy getting mail?
📕 - what’s your favorite book?
📌 - do you enjoy school?
📍 - what’s your dream travel destination?
❤️ - do you have a crush right now?
💔 - have you ever broken a heart/had your heart broken?
🉐 - do you speak another language?
❌ - what’s an unpopular opinion you have?
🛑 - what’s a turn off in a relationship for you?
💯 - what’s something you are extremely proud of right now?
🚭 - do/have you smoked?
❗️- what’s something unusual about you?
♦️ - what’s your favorite game?
🇨🇳 - what ethnicity are you?
who brought back the ‘what does the A stand for’ discourse?
anyway here’s the facts: there should be no A in the acronym typically, but sometimes the A is used (and has historically been used) on public material to denote that allies are welcome at an event or in a space
this both invites in actual allies because sometimes there’s no harm in that, and allows closeted lgbt people a cover to explain to their family and friends why they’re attending an event/space (they can claim they’re going as an ally)
originally the A was included bc the main goal was fighting for legislation so that it would be legal for us to exist, so straight allies were part of the political movement despite not being affected by the law. this is also the reason why leather pride and shit like that is tied to lgbt history. the main goal was just getting as many supporters as possible no matter who they were to fight for visibility since our numbers are small. because now its more of a safe space issue, its acknowledged that people who are nothing more than allies dont suffer from oppression and the A has been used for closeted people. allies arent bad in things like marches but theyre still not the ones for whom lgbt shelters and resources are for. theres a distinction between ally inclusion in political activism historically and in safe spaces, and thats important
important
Historically, it’s for allies. A cishet ally, in my opinion, it more LGBT than a cishet ace trying to be LGBT can ever be. These acronyms have meanings and a history behind them, you don’t get to erase that.
Asexuals are considered lgbt because the lgbt community encompasses all non cishets. An asexual person needs and deserves representation and I welcome them 100%
An asexual person can be cishet though, and how much or how little they have sex really doesn’t change that. Additionally, that isn’t what the LGBT community is. The LGBT community isn’t a dumping ground for everything non cishet, it’s more of a social and political movement that works to fight homophobia and transphobia (at the very least, that was the intention). It wasn’t just a bunch of weird people being weird together, the community had and still has a reason to exist as it does.
Additionally, yeah! Ace and aro people should totally have a space to talk about their experience and a way to get their voices out there! That place just isn’t the LGBT community. Think about it: ace and aro people, unless also LGBT, really don’t have a lot in common with the LGBT community. No shared history, no similar experiences, no similar threats. Wouldn’t it be much more effective for the aro/ace community to exist as a separate social and political group? More room to share their ideas, no ‘sharing the spotlight’, all the focus would be on the issues and such that come with being ace and/or aro. To me, it makes way more sense to have a separate aro/ace community than tacking aro/ace people onto LGBT.
Lol no they can’t they aren’t heterosexual. And they do share threats and mistreatment. From personal experience, more people do not believe in asexuality than homosexuality.
Well, think of it this way. There’s a man attracted to other men. He’s asexual. Does him not wanting to have sex make him not gay? If not, then a straight person not wanting to have sex doesn’t make them no longer straight. That goes for any sexuality.
I actually have a few posts and sources that you might find interesting in this debate! no obligation, but if you want to understand more of the other side of the argument, you might find it informative :)
A few reasons bring ace/aro isn’t LGBT from a historical and contemporary standpoint
How Asexuality is different than being gay, bi, etc. (short)
Short anecdote about A being for Ally
Summary of the history of the LGBT community
Granted, these are Tumblr posts but find them to be very informative. I do not think that unless that aro or ace person is LGBT in some way they at all experience similar struggles as LGBT people. Not at all. My parents have verbally, mentally, and physically abused me for being trans. My parents threatened to kick me out of the house for being who I was, they cut me off from any social interaction, they took away my phone, my internet, any way of talking to everyone else about what was happening to me. They threatened to send me to mental hospitals to ‘fix’ me. They threatened to pull me out of school, the only place I could escape them. My depression and suicidal urges spiraled out of control, and I genuinely thought I would kill myself before I graduated high school. I’ve been called an ‘it’, a rapist, a pervert, a trender, a mistake, a sin, mentally ill, an abuser, a fujoshi, a fujoshit (all for being trans and gay), and I live under the constant threat of being beaten or raped or murdered for being who I am. Somehow, I don’t think that a lot of that would have happened if I was a straight cis girl who just wasn’t interested in sex.
I know ace and aro people have their own struggles. Everyone does, and there have to be special problems that go with being ace or aro. But I do not think that they are or will ever be comparable to what LGBT people are faced with on a day to day basis. That is part of the reason they do not belong in the LGBT community.
That being said, sorry for the long reply, and thank you for listening to what I have to say. Please don’t mistake my passion or intensity for meanness or pushing other’s problems to the side. I have my opinions, you have yours, and I appreciate you listening to me. Thanks.
Look I’m sorry about what you have experienced but it is important to understand that asexuals are a part of the community and most of us have the decency to recognize that, you can be quaint and polite and I may not be, but you are still wrong. The a is there and it stands for asexual and it always will. I wish I could say this better and cite my sources but I don’t think my opinion is spurred by anything but emotion and passion. I have a lot of friends who are asexual and aromatic and they can’t just fuck off to an asexual community? Like that’s not a big thing? The lgbtq 🏳️🌈 community is about inclusion of people that need it. Asexuals who are with people of the opposite sex are still asexual and valid and their lack of sexuality therefor deviates then from the heterosexual “norm” in media. That’s why the lgbtq community exists; to promote inclusion of all non cishets. They are not heterosexual. They are asexual. As a transgender person, surely you have felt exclusion, and how hard it is, then you should understand this and why asexuals deserve it. Add another a for gods sakes, make it for ally, I support it, but don’t take away that representation for ace/aros.
Asexual isn’t about not being into sex. It’s about not experiencing sexual attraction. You can’t be ace and heterosexual. You just can’t.
Do you think non transgender people should have a say in trans rights? Is it there business?
I say no, and non asexuals shouldn’t be able to push them out of the community.
My thinking. Take it with a grain of salt. Or don’t. I’d prefer the latter. I mean that’s what debates are about, right?
I think that anyone can talk about any subject, even if it might not affect them. I welcome the opinions of trans and cis people on trans issues, because I think the mentality of ‘you aren’t X, so stay in your lane’ is stupid and gets nothing done. Additionally, this is an LGBT issue, not just an ace issue. By that logic, it’s only LGBT people who should get to discuss this. If we’re still following that logic, I should be able to talk about this issue, as I am both gay and trans, and a cisgendered heteromantic/heterosexual shouldn’t. That doesn’t make sense.
I’m not saying ace people aren’t real. I’m not saying ace people aren’t valid. I’m not saying ace people don’t deserve respect or love or understanding or a place to speak, but they are not LGBT. If you’re straight, you’re straight, being ace doesn’t change that. If you’re gay, you’re gay, being ace doesn’t change that. To be straight (or hetero) is to be attracted to the opposite sex, be it romantically, sexually, or both. In no way do I understand this logic that because someone doesn’t feel sexual or romantic attraction that somehow they aren’t straight or gay or bi. That does not affect who you’re attracted to, it changes in what ways you’re attracted to them.
The LGBT community is not for every single non cishet person. It’s for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders. And even so, if you’re cisgender and straight (cishet), you aren’t non cishet for being ace. That logic makes no linguistic or logical sense. Asexuality isn’t a new sexuality. It is a lack of sexual attraction. It is a modifier. It isn’t a sexuality.
Additionally, please don’t compare everything I’ve been to to not being included in LGBT. It is not that large of an issue. Not being LGBT isn’t the end of the world, it doesn’t mean your community isn’t real or is hated or anything. It just means your not LGBT. Why is that such a bad thing? People aren’t hating asexuals. People aren’t wanting them to die or killing them in the streets or sending them off to be hung. People for the large majority are understanding. I am understanding. And I feel I’m informed enough on the subject, the LGBT community and it’s history, and the current state of things to have the opinion I do and to believe what I believe.
The LGBT community is about achieving social and political equality for LGBT people. It isn’t an inclusion club. It isn’t a weird kid’s club. It is a legitimate political and activist movement, and I think it’s much more beneficial that way.
The internet exists. Social media exists. It’s easier now more than any other time in history to create communities in social movements. If furries can create a literallyworldwide network, why can’t ace people? There is no reason they can’t.
Then again, also just my opinion. Take it with a grain of salt, but please do realize I have legitimate reasons and historical evidence to believe so.
Those are actually the wrong definitions. You can’t make stuff up. Participation is important, but if you are going to push people out of their community you are changing lanes and taking lives and that is not ok.
Ohana means family ✊
Historically things were different. History doesn’t and shouldn’t define the lgbt community.
Heterosexual/heteromantic - attracted to the opposite gender
Straight - attracted to the opposite gender
Homosexual/Homoromantic - attracted to the same gender
Gay - attracted to the same gender.
These aren’t dictionary definitions, but these are in fact the definitions. I’m not making them up.
The LGBT community is based on its history. The present may change the future, but history is there, and it’s very important.
I am not taking lives. I am not changing lanes. Your assumptions are wrong and your thought process is flawed. Being accused of taking lives for having an opinion on ace discourse is like being called a rapist for being a gay trans man. No correlation. No causation. Nothing connecting the two. That is a really wild reach. I’m not saying ace people are bad or shouldn’t be accepted! Some of my best buds are ace! I love them to pieces? I just don’t think they’re LGBT. And if that takes lives, maybe we have bigger problems. People can have different opinions. You don’t make any logical sense. It seems like you aren’t reading my responses at all. Is this the Twilight Zone?
What could an asexual person get from the LGBT community that they couldn’t get from an ace ally, a supportive friend, a counselor, or an understanding parent? Why is it so important to be LGBT? Why is it so necessary? Why is it so much better? Ace people don’t need protection against harmful laws or human rights violations (which the LGBT community protects LGBT people from), so it isn’t that. You don’t need to be LGBT to be accepted. To don’t need to be LGBT to be valid. So why does one need to be LGBT when all signs point to asexuality not being inherently LGBT?
u ever just think about how little you’ll be accepted 😍😍😍 when u come out 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 even though you’ve waited years 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 to get on with ur life 🙂🙂🙂🙂corrrrrr
does anyone else feel like school subjects have their own specific colour
math is blue right
MATH IS INFACT RED
MATH IS BLUE Y'ALL ENGLISH IS RED
BUT MATH IS GREEN
Math is green. English is somewhere between yellow and blue, but not green. We have Romanian as a subject, that’s more of a pinkish red, then biology is a mix of green and orange shades. Chemistry is straight up black, non-color, like IT, and physics was always either really dark blue or electric blue.
PE is white, non-color for the win, and French is always red with a beige undertone. I never took German, but it sounds purple as heck.
Math is blue, language arts is red, science is green, and history is yellow or something I never got a color for it but I think it’s yellow from what I’ve seen. PE is ALWAYS white. Anything else has no color
Math/algebra is red, English is blue (unsaturated pastel darkish thingie), Physics is purple, Chemistry is orange, Biology is a different blue than English (lighterish, brighterish), Trigonometry is green, History is yellowish orangish, Statistics is a grey/blue, US history is red, world history is black, gymnastics (my physical education) is multicolored, and piano performance is black and white.
Math is red, English is a grey-ish blue, History is a purple, Sociology is either yellow or pink (depending on the day). Ukulele practice is blue. Piano practice is white. PE is an ugly green and science is yellow.
Math is FUCKING RED AS SHIT English is green music is black science is light blue history is VERY OBVIOUSLY brown art is brown too. PE is lighter green.
@larkiaquail HISTORY IS PURPLE, YOU HEATHEN
HOW EVEN
PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW YOU GOT A COLOUR LIKE BROWN FOR HISTORY
ITS OBVIOUS
CAUSE THINGS LIKE ARTIFACTS ARE FOUND IN DESERTS AND SAND AND STUFF IS BROWN AND IT’S A LONG TIME AGO AND I T S B R O W N
BUT HISTORY IS ABOUT KINGS, QUEENS, KNIGHTS AND WHAT’S MORE ROYAL THAN A DEEP PURPLE WHICH WAS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO RETRIEVE IN ANCIENT TIMES! ROYAL PURPLE IS BETTER THAN DIRT!
HISTORY IS ABOUT ANCIENT EGYPT AND EARLY COLONIZATION AND EGYPT IS BROWN AS HECK BECAUSE NOT ONLY IS IT IN THE DESERT BUT BROWN IS THE EASIEST COLOR TO GET
Math is purple, you poor fools. English is a forest green, Art is bright red, History is a golden brown, but World History is an orange, US History is a red, PE is a light grey, Science is a light blue, but Physics is a dark blue, Chemistry is yellow, Biology is a light chartreuse, Computers is a lavender.
Maths is a mid Blue. English is a muted red. Art is a brighter, fuller red. Biology is light green. Chemistry is orange. Physics is dark blue. History is yellowy orange. PE is silvery grey. Geography is darkish green. Drama is purple. Music is a less bright orange. IT is grey. Spanish is yellow. French is pastel green. German is a muddy green. Food tech is the same green as biology. Design is light purple. Woodwork is bright red.
